Hello Moms; sometimes we get frustrated, tired and confused when our kids, throw tantrums. Truth however is that tantrums are part of childhood, children between the ages of one to four years haven’t really developed their coping skill hence get frustrated themselves and tend to show these frustrations by throwing tantrums. It could be getting frustrated while trying to communicate for kids of one or two years. While older kids tend to get frustrated when trying to assert their need and desire not allowed by adults. Here are some tips to help through these tantrums:
- Identify tantrum triggers . Find out what usually leads to these temper tantrums. Think of ways to make these events easier on your child. Most times they throw tantrums when you go shopping or visiting; identify if they do this when tired or hungry and then time the situations so your child isn’t tired, eats before you go out, or doesn’t need to behave for too long.
- Stay calm (or pretend to!) When tantrums occur. Getting angry will make the situation worse and harder for both of you. If you need to speak at all, keep your voice calm and level, and act deliberately and slowly.
- Wait out the tantrum. Ignore the behavior until it stops. Once a temper tantrum is in full swing, it’s too late for reasoning or distraction. Your child won’t be in the mood to listen. You also run the risk of teaching your child that tantrums get your full involvement and attention
- Give no pay-off for the tantrum. If the tantrum occurs because your child doesn’t want to do something (such as take a bath), gently insist that she does. If the tantrum occurs because your child wants something, don’t give her what she wants.
- Give Hugs. You might feel the need to scream or spank when your kid is freaking out, but big, firm hug, (not a super-cuddly one) really can help her settle down, And don’t say a word when you do it, because even if you talk; you’d just be entering into a futile battle of wills. Hugs make kids feel secure and let them know that you care about them, even if you don’t agree with their behavior.
- Reduce stress . Tired, hungry and overstimulated children are more likely to throw tantrums, try as much as you can to reduce anything that might stress the kid out.
- Be aware of how your child is feeling . If you can see a tantrum brewing, step in and try doing something else to distract your kid.
- Be consistent and calm in your approach. If you sometimes give your child what he wants when he tantrums and sometimes don’t, the problem could become worse.
- Reward good behaviour . Enthusiastically praise your kid when he/she manages frustration well.